tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3777157269138244521.post6950310620586192989..comments2022-12-20T00:05:39.939+02:00Comments on Gnus, wombats and ducks: Being understoodCecilehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13740346973500351275noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3777157269138244521.post-47764949434296080242011-12-12T03:57:09.696+02:002011-12-12T03:57:09.696+02:00I just came back to re-read this, and I became hap...I just came back to re-read this, and I became happy for you all over again that you found someone understanding. My therapist has been learning a lot, and I think sometimes I say something that clues her into some aspect of what ASD is like for me.<br /><br />It's true what you say, that being understood and validated also means that it's all real, and it's also a reminder of how much you're NOT understood and validated outside of your therapist's office. But that situation can change somewhat, too.<br /><br />I think my parents are really starting to understand what it's like for me. I know they don't "understand"-understand, but I know now that they at least know it's been very difficult, that my nervous system is different from theirs, and that I have to work very hard to do things. They didn't get to that point overnight, and I still have a lot of explaining to do, but the process is definitely in motion. They asked me to send them things other people have written that I feel describe something well, because they know that that will be easier than me having to explain everything on my own. It will be difficult, but perhaps that's something you can do with the people in your life as well?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3777157269138244521.post-30586762589335244002011-08-23T18:25:10.886+02:002011-08-23T18:25:10.886+02:00Thanks for your comments. I've been very emoti...Thanks for your comments. I've been very emotional, sorry for not replying earlier. Being understood, being validated also means that the disadvantages of Aspergers are real and will not go away. It is something that one knows, but does not always really want to think about. <br /><br />And the session also brought to the fore the realisation that 99.99% of the time, I am not being understood and I will have to keep on either explaining or hiding my struggles.<br /><br />I hope to feel more positive again soon, still feeling a little overwhelmed.Cecilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13740346973500351275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3777157269138244521.post-49225618194025569322011-08-19T03:03:34.988+02:002011-08-19T03:03:34.988+02:00Wow! That is so wonderful! I hope I can write a ...Wow! That is so wonderful! I hope I can write a post like this at some point. I really like my current psychologist - she's absolutely wonderful - but she's the first to admit that this is as much a learning process for her as it is for me.<br /><br />I know what you mean about wanting to be alone for a few days to process things. I often have the same need, and I hope you do find some time to hide away and do what you need to do.<br /><br />Congratulations on finding such great understanding!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3777157269138244521.post-46992132075555585512011-08-16T06:06:47.402+02:002011-08-16T06:06:47.402+02:00So, so happy for you. I had that for a little whi...So, so happy for you. I had that for a little while but lately have felt that it's too much of a stretch for my current therapist to deal with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3777157269138244521.post-69278163422096372322011-08-13T12:21:18.639+02:002011-08-13T12:21:18.639+02:00It sounds blissful. I wish i had someone who under...It sounds blissful. I wish i had someone who understood like that, rather than me having to explain all the time! I so know what u mean about that. I'm really pleased that you've found this source of support.StrangerInGodzonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01092023230098316617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3777157269138244521.post-23883466932954716722011-08-12T19:26:45.597+02:002011-08-12T19:26:45.597+02:00Dankie dat jy dit ook met ons/my deel. Selfs vir m...Dankie dat jy dit ook met ons/my deel. Selfs vir my wat so min van al hierdie dinge verstaan,beteken dit so veel. Ek besef nou en glo dat ek nou kan verstaan, en elke dag meer en meer sal besef waaroor alles gaan. Dankie.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3777157269138244521.post-72874710149524158292011-08-12T19:09:30.033+02:002011-08-12T19:09:30.033+02:00I'm really happy for you that you've found...I'm really happy for you that you've found such support. I know exactly what you mean when you say explaining can feel like making excuses: I feel the same way sometimes. It's such a relief when you talk to someone who understands. Thank you for sharing this.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09354093815575911456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3777157269138244521.post-8270004897236564582011-08-12T18:58:30.712+02:002011-08-12T18:58:30.712+02:00That is great Cecile, I can't imagine how that...That is great Cecile, I can't imagine how that feels to find someone you can connect with like that.Nancyhttp://chatter.swardraws.com/noreply@blogger.com